Do you know your attachment style?

Find out how you attach in romantic relationships and how to repair your relationship.
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What are the different attachment styles?

Secure
Secure attachers feel comfortable being close to others and have a positive view of themselves and others. They are able to trust their partners and feel secure in their relationships. 
Anxious
Anxious attachers are often insecure and worried about being abandoned. They may have a hard time trusting their partners and may be clingy or demanding.
Avoidant
Avoidant attachers tend to be independent and avoid close relationships. They may be reluctant to share their feelings or get close to others.
Disorganized
Disorganized attachers may have a mixture of secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment styles. They may be confused about their relationships and may have a great difficulty trusting others.

How does your style affect your relationship?

Your attachment style can flavor every interaction you have in your romantic relationship. 
People with secure attachment styles tend to have healthier, more satisfying relationships. They are able to trust their partners, communicate openly, and resolve conflict effectively. 
Insecure attachment (those who tend toward anxious, avoidant, or disorganized thoughts & behavior) may have difficulty trusting their partners and may be more likely to experience jealousy or insecurity.
They may also withdraw from their partners or avoid intimacy altogether.
If you're curious what your style is and how it may be affecting your relationship, click below.

Why is attachment so important?

More than
1 in 3 people are 
insecurely attached.

More than a third of people struggle with attachment issues. This means that they may have difficulty trusting others, they may be anxious or avoidant in relationships, or may have difficulty expressing their needs and emotions. 
Insecure attachment styles can be developed in childhood due to negative experiences with caregivers, and they can also be influenced by genetics and personality factors.
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There is SO much 
we can do to address 
our attachment struggles.

Attachment styles are not set in stone. With time and effort, it is possible to change your attachment stye and develop more secure relationships. If you are struggling with an insecure attachment style, there are many resources available to help you. Therapy, self-help books, and online support groups can all be helpful in your journey to change.
Remember, you are not alone. Millions of people struggle with insecure attachment styles. With the right help, you can overcome your challenges and build the relationships you dream of.
How do you learn best?

Stop unhealthy cycles 
that may be affecting
the ones you love most.

Your relationship doesn't just affect you and your partner. The ripples that extend beyond relationship struggles touch our family and friends, and we've got resources to help heal your love so that you can take better care of the people you love.
Learn about Intergenerational Trauma

Are you insecurely attached?

How can I stop worrying about my partner leaving?
How do I deal with my anxiety in relationships?
How can I build trust in my relationship?
How do I communicate my needs to my partner?
How do I set boundaries?
How can I cope with rejection?
How do I heal from past relationships?
How can I learn to love myself unconditionally?
How does someone find a secure partner?
How do people create secure relationships?

Are you a serial dater or 
have trouble maintaining
a healthy relationship?

There are many reasons why some have trouble maintaining happy, healthy relationships. For some, self-esteem and communication problems are at the root of their issues. For many, attachment issues can explain why we push others away (or pursue them too vigorously.)
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What does anxious attachment look like in relationships?

Anxious attachment patterns can show up many ways:
Does it feel like no one can ever come close enough?
Do you feel a strong fear of abandonment or rejection?
Do you tend to be clingy in romance?
Are you often jealous or possessive?
Do you believe you aren't worthy of a good person?
Do you tend to over-contact when your partner is away?
Do you lose time/energy overthinking your relationship?
Are you anxious in love?

What does avoidant attachment look like in relationships?

Avoidant attachment patterns can show up many ways:
Does it feel like everyone wants to get too close to you?
Do you feel a strong fear of losing your independence?
Do you tend to be reluctant to commit?
Are you often uncomfortable with closeness or affection?
Do you nitpick your partners looking for flaws and red flags?
Do you tend to suppress your strong romantic feelings?
Are you avoidant in love?

Find out your attachment style:

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